Shifting Overwhelm to Well-Being: A 15-Step Secret Formula

A Secret 15-Step Conscious Leadership Formula

Are you over-stimulated and stuffed up with a heavy stream of never-ending data coming at you from all directions? I know I am. Did you know that every day 100 billion e-mails, 10 billion texts, and 500 million tweets fly through cyberspace? According to the former CEO of Google, Eric Schmidt, “Between the dawn of civilization through 2003, about five exabytes of information was created. Now that much information is created every two days.” No wonder so many people are in overwhelm and losing connection to themselves and what really matters. And guess what? We don’t necessarily have any more knowledge nor time to spare in spite of all the time-saving devices we have become addicted to. There is something amiss here.

Challenge for Us Human Beings

This modern challenge is something that employees and leadership in all organizations are facing. On top of the information overflow related to our work, there are endless other challenges that can add to the diminishing of our well-being. Think of any type of conflict in your family, relationships, business dealings, or the workplace. Then there are health, financial, communication, career, and social issues to deal with, to name a few. And let’s top that with the multitudes of interesting and desirable activities available to us to engage in with colleagues, family, and friends that also compete for our time and energy.

Our Human System is on Overdrive

We have forgotten to take into account that our systems have not been prepared to process so much, so fast. We and our bodies do not function as efficiently under this new and unprecedented onslaught of technology and limitless activities. The constant stimulus activates our more unconscious, reactive limbic system rather than our self-aware prefrontal cortex. According to research, when we multitask — exactly opposite to its supposed point and purpose — we take much longer to get things done and we make more mistakes. We are more likely to be on autopilot while the healthy levels of our happy hormones go down and our stress levels go up. No wonder that the exclamation “I am in overwhelm!” can be heard all over the place.

How Do You Stay So Calm?

A collaborator of mine recently asked me “How do you stay so calm, Rúna? I want to be like you.” This was not the first time I heard the “I want to be like you” assertion. Through the years I have been told by clients, collaborators, and friends that the combination of the unstoppable, fiery passion I have for living my life from my higher purpose coupled with a grounded calm and stillness is what gives me my special energy. Some call it presence. But here is the question. Is this something that only Rúna can embody? Absolutely not. If I have an ounce of this quality, it is simply because I have worked at cultivating it for decades. I have been committed and dedicated to my practice of elevating my being-ness to balance off my doing-ness. The practice is an ongoing process — all masters will tell you that only practice will take you to mastery. It is all about the mileage. There are no shortcuts. Eastern philosophy also maintains that to exercise mastery, you have to be totally present. It doesn’t matter what the mastery is in… Presence is key.

Practicing Conscious Leadership Leads to Well-Being

So, that special something that some people seem to feel I embody is exactly what most people are looking for… sometimes consciously, but mostly unconsciously. Do I feel I embody the peace and harmony within that the Buddha experienced under the Bodhi tree? Absolutely not. But I admit that I might be a tad bit further along the way than most. Why? For the simple reason that I cultivate my practice. Do I use every life experience that comes my way and ask, “What is this situation trying to teach me? And how can I move through it successfully with the least resistance and in the most effortless way?” Meaning, how can I surf the wave of the interplay between presence and relaxation that brings me to what some people call “Being in the flow.” What I am seeking is to experience a relative balance — aliveness, joy, and well-being, through my SELF-LEADERSHIP while attending to my life’s challenges. The more I practice, the stronger my inner core becomes. Amplifying our Well-being is an inside job, cultivated through our self-leadership.

And you can do it too.

Cultivating the Embodiment of Conscious Leadership

As synchronicity has it, I was on schedule to write this article about leadership and well-being for the e.MILE People Development Magazine while simultaneously working on designing a training module for an in-house leadership development program for a client addressing how to help their leaders face and move through the constant overwhelm to a more grounded, calmer, and more productive way of being. As this particular client is committed to supporting their leaders and employees to embody the principles of Conscious Leadership, I am excited to have the opportunity to share some of the processes we can use when cultivating being a conscious leader versus the reactionary, overwhelmed, and grumpy leader that too often is considered the norm in companies today; what we know now to be the unconscious leader.

Diving into my own experience of dealing with the out-of-control feeling of having too much coming at me all at once and filling my plate, I will let you in on my secret process that I use successfully in my own leadership practice — the very same process I will take my client’s leadership team through.

I will start with my Conscious Leadership in Action maxims…

* Conscious Leadership is a practice

* The practice is a process

* The process is a life-long journey

* Once on the journey, there is no turning back

* Soak up the learning and growth

* Use humor for a fun and playful travel

* Make your life your practice!

The reason I refer to these steps as secrets of conscious leadership is that the majority of business professionals still apparently don’t know these principles, as they continue to blame others and external circumstances for their lack of well-being —their bosses or their co-workers, their organizations, the recession, and so on — while keeping themselves free of any responsibility to solve the issues themselves from within. Leadership in organizations can do a lot to support the well-being of their employees, and yet, at the same time, each individual needs to take personal responsibility for their own well-being. Here is my secret formula…

The 15-Step Well-Being Formula

Step 1: Wake Up to Where You Are – Is there an Ouch?

Step 2: Slow Down. Observe. Observe. Observe.

Step 3: Identify the Problem

Step 4: Who’s Fault Is It Anyway?

Step 5: Take Charge. Maybe a Mindset Upgrade is Needed?

Step 6: Use Your Power of Choice: Suffering or Well-Being?

Step 7: Own the Responsibility 100%

Step 8: Craft Your Intention for a Different Way of Being and Commit to It

Step 9: Simplify. Simplify. Simplify

Step 10: Prioritize. Prioritize. Prioritize.

Step 11: Change Your Expectations. Change Your Energy. Change Your Experience.

Step12: Relax – Let Go of Resistance and Surrender Your Wall of Protection

Step13: Focus on the Present – Remain in the NOW

Step14: Enjoy the Union of Relaxation & Presence — Become the FLOW

Step15: Show Compassion and Kindness to Yourself in the Process, and Don’t         Take Things too Seriously.

I know from my own experience that following this formula leads to a totally different way of being. Is it an easy path? No. Is it worth it? Absolutely. The more of us who are committed to the journey of inner peace and calm verses overwhelm, the more power goes to the collective seeking the same. What has been my guiding light over the years are Gandhi’s words when he said, “Be the change you want to see in the world.”

May Gandhi’s words shine a light on your path as they have mine and lead you to the well-being you dream of.

This article was first published on June 10, 2015 in e.MILE People Development Magazine